The real is unknown; the known is unreal.
Reality is uninterested in your so-called knowledge. Reality just is. It does what it does.
It is useful to distinguish between three levels of understanding:
Knowing – at this initial level, stress is likely to occur whenever reality does not seem to be behaving correctly, that is in accordance with your expectations.
Not knowing – at this intermeditate level, anxiety may occur, reflecting your habitual need to know in order to generate an illusion of security and control.
Non-knowing – at this higher level, neither stress nor anxiety occur, as it is absolutely clear that in reality there is nothing to know. This level reveals that there never were any levels.
In order to really know, it is necessary to recognize the fact that you do not know. Not because you do not know, but because in reality there is actually nothing to be known. All you can ever know is knowledge, thoughts, concepts, ideas and beliefs – magical games of the mind.
But the real world contains none of these. So you can not possibly “know” reality. It is meaningless. Only in this empty place of non-knowing is there any possibility of really listening to yourself and to others without judgement or prejudice. In this place wisdom and compassion arise spontaneously. This is intelligent love.
Whatever troubles you is known, otherwise you would not be troubled by it. When you realize deeply what is real and what is unreal, what can possibly trouble you?