It is clear that you do not enjoy being blamed and criticized. It is less obvious that praise can also cause you trouble, in that you may feel a background anxiety of needing to live up to others’ expectations of you. To avoid both these difficulties, it is good to know who you really are.
It is easy to find out what you really are:
- You are not what you think.
- If you think you are not what you think, you are not that either.
- You are also not what others think.
- If you eliminate everything you and others think about you, what is left is really you.
- What is that?
- Find out as a fact (not another opinion).
This way, neither your nor other people’s opinions can trouble you regardless of whether they praise or blame you. After all, their opinions are no more than the reflection of their own thoughts which even they do not control.
Find out what you are, if not what you and others think you are. As these opinions naturally dissolve, freedom manifests naturally. Enjoy it.